Over Parent Your Children
One of the toughest but most fulfilling jobs in the world is raising a child. Despite this feeling of fulfillment, you can hardly tell when you are going overboard in parenting your child. There are some signs to look out for when parenting that shows if you are over-parenting your child.
Whenever you observe that you are engaged in any of the following signs, know that you are either crossing the line or you have crossed the line of good parenting.
- Your child lies often
There are times a child would stretch the truth, this, of course, is normal with kids. But research has it that when you are too harsh with your child or too strict, they learn to be good liars. This occurs because the child would want to avoid punishment.
- Your child has more restriction than most children
This is simple, if you look around and find out that you are the strictest parent amongst other parents, then know that you might be headed to the valley of overparenting.
- Your patience for silliness is minimal
You should always come to grasp with the fact that kids love ridiculous jokes and silly games sometimes. If you observe that most of the time you are not patient with them, then you have crossed boundaries.
- You have a long list of regulations and rules
Rules are good, but it becomes bad when it is excessive and overburdening. This could be harmful to your child. Try as much as possible to keep your rules simple and easy to follow.
- You nag too much
Nagging could prevent your child from taking responsibility for their own behavior. A sign of bad parenting is when you are always nagging your child on when to do his/her homework, play the piano, this won’t allow him/her to do things on his/her own.
Consequences of overparenting your children
Some negative effects experienced by children under the umbrella of overparenting are highlighted below.
- Trouble in concentrating and completing homework and school work.
- Increased aggression in the child.
- Bed Wetting.
- Hyperactive attitude and behavior including tantrums, running from the house, and constant disobedience.
- Withdrawal from friends and family.
- Sleeping and eating disorders.
Steps to better parenting
We recommend some steps to help you better manage the parenting process of your child.
- Boost your child’s self-esteem
Children tend to see themselves through the eyes of their parents, so your voice tone, body language, and expressions are taken in by your child. This occurs mostly at their early stage, this could boost their self-esteem if you use the right words, actions, and expressions.
- Catch your child when he/she is good
We always tend to react to our children’s negative behaviors more often than we appraise their positive achievements. Try to get their good moments and praise them for it.
- Make out time for your child
Children can always appreciate the time spent with them when they need your attention. Some parents find it difficult to even spend mealtimes with their children to talk more about spending quality time with them. This could be the game-changer for you and your kids.
Other notes shall be considered
- Set limits and remain consistent with your discipline.
- As much as possible, try to Be your child’s role model.
- Communication is a priority.
- Flexibility in parenting style could be helpful, always know the style to adapt to the different stages of their lives.
- Always show unconditional love to them.
- Try to put into consideration your needs and limitations as a parent.
Sure, parenting is not as simple as ABC, but with simple steps like the ones stated here, you are sure to lead a beautiful life with your children at all stages of their lives. And keep in consideration that
“your children are your seeds, treat them well, get the best of it”.